Why I don’t like the NBA…

I haven’t been in a writing mood for a couple of months… have had some major writer’s block..and now of course, I don’t.  I’m not a big basketball fan to begin with, but  I will enjoy college ball far more than pro basketball any time.   So here’s my opinion on the NBA…  would they just finish the dang season already? Please.

I’m tired of hearing about Lebron James and Dwayne Wade spout their excuses when they lose, and their gloating when they win.  I am tired of the coaches giving the rah rah speeches.  But most of all,  I’m tired of Lebron James.  He annoys me. His commercials irritate me. Everytime he opens his mouth, he bothers me.  I was less than impressed with how he left Cleveland, and everytime that ESPN is on in my house, (which is frequently thanks to Sean and Connor) he is on there.  I don’t care if he is the next big star, that he will be ‘bigger’ than Michael Jordan.

In fact,  I don’t think he will.  He epitomizes all the things that people don’t like about the pro sport stars, whether it’s making fun of an opponent because they received kudos for playing ill,  upping the ante for his paycheck, leaving a town that he ‘promised’ to make proud of their team,  and joining Miami specifically for a championship.  He makes no bones about his goals, but he seems to forget that basketball is a team sport.  Whether he, Dwayne Wade and the someone or other  Bosch, win the NBA championship this year,  he won’t be as good as Michael Jordan.

Michael Jordan did go to play for Chicago.  It wasn’t a basketball town…sure they had a team, but it wasn’t a team that everyone followed. It became a team that people followed. He, by no means, has been a perfect person either.  Gambling, a divorce, but never the ego that was publicized.  He did leave basketball for a season of minor league baseball, but he was fulfilling a dream.   And while people envied him for that, they didn’t resent it. I don’t remember him talking about what HE wanted,  or leaving a team and a town with so much publicity in order to win a championship, or just coming across as such an egotist.  He had the respect of the other ball players, and when they speak of him, even today, they do it with a smile on their face.

So to me, it doesn’t matter who wins the NBA championship this year… I want it over.  I want to not see Lebron James and his interviews for a couple of months.  And even if he does eventually win six NBA titles,  he won’t be as good as Michael Jordan.  He just doesn’t have the class.

Thankfully this season is almost over.  I think they have two more games… and for once, I’m rooting for Dallas.


top 10 things on my mind

1.  I’m out of the cast and typing normally now, thank goodness.  Being incapacitated for two weeks was enough for me.  I’m a horrible patient, and I get easily frustrated when I can’t do things that I normally do. Pain … Continue reading

Spring Cleaning still

I have conquered the upstairs with the exception my craft room. I’m saving that one for tonight or this afternoon. This am, I am heading to the kitchen, the laundry room and the dining room to clean and sort and purge.

We are up to 5 bags to the thrift store. We have thrown out ten bags of what the heck was that and why did we keep it stuff. So for my numbers, I have cleaned out 15 bags of stuff. 25 more bags of stuff… really still thinking that the garage will be good for at least 10 bags. 🙂 What does that say about my housekeeping skills… I save everything…and probably shouldn’t!

Mama said there’d be days like this…

I’m so glad that March is ending.

It really hasn’t been a good month.  In fact, it’s been down right stressful.  (sigh)

I’m not liking stress in my life.  I like my quiet well ordered life, well, which I’m still waiting for it to get to be quiet and well ordered.   Maybe when I’m retired?

Last night though, it hit me like a ton of bricks… all the things that had not gone ‘right‘ in my mind this month.  A broken window in the car, no internet, disappointments, my grandma with a broken hip, a son who still doesn’t know quite where he’s living next fall, new tires for the car,  a daughter who has lost her self confidence,  taxes,  an elbow that continually throbs right now and the usual ‘happy’ clients that I deal with on a day in/ day out basis.  So I was stewing over everything and nothing.

And then it occurred to me, that this is life. Because let’s face it,  Life is messy, and not always right. There is always a bit of joy in the face of despair.  It’s hearing a owl hooting away in the night, and making you smile.  It’s watching your child hit that volleyball shot that she’s been practicing forever, and making it.  It’s waking up in the morning and smelling spring in the air, after a long stale winter. It’s having your son call just to say “hi“… and it is the bear hug that your husband gives you despite the fact that it has not been the best month to live with me.  It’s the jokes that you can share with your friends.  It’s being able to call your sister and just talk about everything and nothing.  It’s hearing your parent’s best friends in the background of a movie on Facebook and immediately being transported back to your childhood.

Life is not supposed to be rainbows, gold and happiness all the time… it just isn’t.   But those moments that God graciously gives us, spurs us on, and he carries us through those times.  Even when we doubt that He’s in control.  He renews his promises to us daily, and sometimes, I just need to remember that there are days like this, months like this,  and I don’t have to fret and stew over it, because it’s going to be okay.  And tomorrow starts a new month.

Spring Cleaning Day

I was inspired by Sarah at Cloverlane to commit for Lent to purge 40 bags of ‘stuff’ from my house for Lent. I’ve half hearted done three bags… 37 more to go. I’ve been crazy busy with some stuff, but not enough to be ignoring my commitment. Hmph… going to get my self into gear. My Random thought of the day… wouldn’t life be easier if you had a spell check alert/ grammar alert/ internal editor alert before you wrote/ said anything?

Top 10 things on my mind this Friday

Top 10 Things on my mind this Friday…

1.   Student council mentor day is today, Volleyball Casino Fundraiser is tonight, work Saturday and tomorrow night is dinner out with Connor, (more later),  Sunday is a volleyball tournament.  I think I am tired just thinking about it! Monday I get to collapse.  Actually on Monday & Tuesday,  I need desperately to spring clean.  My house is driving me crazy.

 2. So for Lent,  I am giving up clutter.  I’m a pack rat.  I save too much. I know I do.  Sean, the other night, about passed out because I threw away Tupperware that we have no lid for and was getting yucky around the lid area.  He and I are usually at odds about what to throw out or give away.  So when I was doing my inner examination,  I realized that I do need to simplify.  In some things,  I have too much.     So my goal,  40 days of Lent,  40 bags either give away or trash.  I have 37 bags to go.  (sigh)  However, I figure the bathrooms, both Katy’s and ours are good for at least two bags. 

 3.  I’m having elbow surgery in April.  Official diagnoses – tennis elbow.  But any repetitious movement can cause this issue.  Cortisone shots only hurt like heck, no noticeable improvement whatsoever.  The biggest issue is that I’m having difficulty doing certain things at home… lifting dishes, sweeping, vacuuming… all my favorite chores. (eyeroll)   However, the house needs them done. Regularly. On Tuesday, sweeping the kitchen floor, I about passed out from the pain. According to the doctor though, it’s a pretty simple surgery, no overnight stay or anything. I’ll be in a splint for 2 and 1/2 weeks.  Then I get physical therapy.  Woop! I figure for this week’s cleaning spree, I will take a lot of Advil before and after.

 4. I’m finding it just a bit ironic that I’m going to Reno in April for Katy’s volleyball tourney. I can  safely say with no doubt whatsoever, that Reno has never been on my list of places I wanted to visit.  I am, however, staying at the Atlantis resort.  Note: I don’t gamble. However it looks like they have a really good NY style deli  –  matzo ball soup anyone?, and a sushi restaurant.  Probably won’t be dieting with this trip!

 5. So Saturday night, we are having dinner with Connor and his new girlfriend, Alissa.  Judging from her Facebook page, she looks like a nice girl.  He’s met both of her parents, as they have been out skiing in Colorado.  She is from Chicago.  According to Connor, her family was amused because he uses “sir” and “ma’am”.  Evidently she has asked to meet us, prompting me to worry that they are serious.  It’s only been 3 months.  Anyways, she’s nervous about meeting us.  Us?  We’re so not scary. Nervous though.. a bit.  

 6. I’m seriously saddened in a way.  I found an ad for a job that I would love. Absolutely love. I haven’t even applied for it.  It would require relocation.  A lot of relocation.  The job is in Portland Maine.  There’s no way I could move Sean from a sunny climate to a cloudy one. Do they even have volleyball in Maine?  It would be working with Library Thing which is an on-line private & public library resource system.  It’s great.  The job description just sounds like me… sigh.  Someday, I am going to find out what I’m going to be when I grow up.

 7. Katy is seriously changing right before my eyes.  Her body is stretching out and she is continuing to lose weight.  So proud of her.  She is competing in discus and shot put in track.  She’s a little miffed that she has to run with everyone, but she’s doing good.  Her first meet was Wednesday, and she got a score of 51.1 for the discus.  The shot put wasn’t as good.  She with the rest of the student council, gets to shadow someone in Windsor.  Katy is shadowing Mr. Drase, the band director at the high school.  Music Teacher is something that she throws out there along with doctor or respiratory therapist.  CSAPS are finally over, and the teachers gleefully sent out more homework. 

 8.  So the Volleyball Casino night will be over tonight.  Then I continue fundraising for Santa Cops golf tournament.  I think I like hearing people say “NO” in so many ways. 

 9. Sean is going to Tucson for some golf and to spend time with his Dad.  He needs a break. He leaves Sunday.  I’m hoping he will find his smile down in Arizona and bring it back with him. He has a lot going on with work, baseball and all the usual fun stuff. His allergies have been going full on for the last two months. Hopefully the dry AZ air will kill them all.

 10.  Taxes are coming up, and when they are done, they will tell us that we have more money than we should.  And then they will take it from us. (sigh)  Then I get the privilege of  working with Connor on his financial aid paperwork. (even bigger sigh).   Do you remember the episode of Friends, when Rachel gets her first paycheck, and asks “Who is FICA and why are they getting all my money?”  Yup.  That’s how I’m feeling

I’m a Pooh Bear personality..

Well,  I guess I now know that I have an audience for my blog.  I don’t always realize that people actually read this.  (Which seems really silly since I do make it public anyway.)

It is really a big stress release for me to be able to write out my feelings.  So to those of you who called my husband concerned for my mindset,  Thanks.  I’m okay.  Stressful week.  But  it’s over.   I’m still not going to say,  “what else could happen?”  because it could.  (eyeroll)

And when confronted with feeling like nothing is going right… I have to remember to look at the things that are going right.  See… I’m a Pooh bear personality.  Perplexed on occasion by other people, always in the mood for food, sing vaguely off key all the time,  live in a cozy home,  love honey… never wanting to hurt other people’s feelings, even after being bounced over by the Tigger’s of the world.  But every once in a while,  I can become Eeyore,  who is adorable in his own right… but not a person who you can be around in large doses.  And he, even in the midst of sunshine, will be looking for the earthquakes.  And when I’m an Eeyore, I probably shouldn’t blog evidently.

But everyone has those moments.  So today,  I had lunch with a dear friend who reminded me of all the good things in my life.  She is a very skillful listener and whether she realized it or not, she did remind me of all that is good in my life.

I have a job.  It’s a good job especially in the face of today, I have benefits and I get paid really well for what I do.  The challenges & creativity may not always be there.  But I still have a job.

I have two incredible kids.  They do drive me crazy  at times, but they make my heart full.  Their two different personalities make me smile whenever I think of them.   The very fact that they love sports like their daddy and I attend as many as I can should speak for itself. They have made me a much better person than I was before being a mama.

I have some incredible friends and family who have offered:  margaritas, chocolate, to run my daughter places, sent me funny emails,  brought me flowers and were simply my friends.  When you have people like that in your life, you are blessed.

And then I have my husband.  My dear funny sweet husband who really, really did not want to go away this past weekend.  And I sent him anyway.  He bless his heart, argued with me,  but he was working this weekend at a college baseball series in Grand Junction.  It was  so hard not having him here.  He’s my touchstone.  He grounds me and holds me up at the same time.  He is one of the few people who really gets Melissa. And he loves me anyway, despite my faults. He knew he didn’t want to go, but he did because I wanted him to go.

Saturday night,  while my daughter was hanging out with friends in the living room, I curled up in my room, working on my crazy quilt, which now does have every block on the quilt, thankyouverymuch, but still have lots and lots of embroidery to go, and watching Under The Tuscan Sun.   (Side note: I know it doesn’t adhere to the book well at all.  I love the book version too.)

I’m sitting there watching Diane Lane buy Bramasole.    But I was struck by the realization, that there has really been only one time that I have thrown caution to the wind, didn’t make a list of pro’s and cons,  talk myself out of a momentous decision.  And that decision was Sean.

I  dated guys in college, but having had my heart broken or so I thought,  was not in the least bit interested in finding THE GUY, as some of my friends were.  So I had  just ended one of those  ‘eh’ relationships with a guy that was too old for my taste at the time.  I was with a girlfriend who I had been friends with since junior high, and she needed to return a text book to him, that she had used for a class.  We were supposed to go to a movie.  We ended up hanging out in his dorm room for two hours or so.  He was funny, and he actually read books.   We talked and talked that night.   And the very next day, I called him and told him to let me know when his volleyball game was, because I’d love to see him play.   Now  I didn’t call guys.  So for me to do that, was pretty much like taking an ad out in the paper, advertising my interest.  And as for volleyball – pfft..  I am not, nor ever will be an athletic type.   But I went to his game all by myself.  And watched him run around a court, and it didn’t even resemble the game I remember from p.e. class.

After six weeks with him,  I tried to pull back and he called me on it.  We said “i love you’s” after that fight.  And meant it.  We dated for two years and have been married for 19 years now.   21 years total, we’re still together.  And he still makes me laugh, and we can still talk to each other about everything and nothing.   Not many people can say that.

So when I’m being an Eeyore,  I need to remember my blessings.  And right now, I holding fast to them.  In many, many ways,  I’m very lucky,  still searching for my perspective which is currently missing, but I’ve got company along the way whether I’m Eeyore or Pooh  Bear.